“Mommy, can I wear lipstick to school today?”
Her name is Reese. The fearless, fun, intelligent, sweet young lady I call my 6 year old daughter. She is the most beautiful girl in the world to me and her dad… and any time Prince is singing in the back ground. She has the perfect little eyes, the longest eye lashes, the softest skin and the cutest lips. I would not change a thing! She has a personality out of this world and is so sweet that the dance school director calls her the Ambassador of her class since she excitedly welcomes any new students with a smile and a hug. Man… I am so blessed to have this little bundle of joy in my life!
Now, back to the lecture at hand… the lecture that I have to give her just about every day. What was the question again? Oh yeah, can she wear lipstick today (insert a classic eye roll). Well, I just let her know that lipstick is only for her dance performances and for dress up days. Typically she just lets the response blow away with the wind and let’s go of her little lipstick-loving desires. Then one morning, just recently, I felt like I was the one who got a lecture!
“Mommy, why do YOU wear red lipstick all of the time?
Why do you wear makeup every day?”
Wait… what the hell?!? Am I in the twilight zone? Is this kid “ballsy” enough to question my authority?!? Who is the adult here??? I was so in shock that I almost didn’t know what to say! But then it came to me in a soft Rihanna whisper… WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK! So of course I blame it on the j-o-b, and how the makeup I wear is like my uniform. I have to wear it every day to show ladies what the products look like on the face. And just like that she dropped it! Whew! We got our coats on, grabbed our bags and headed to the car. The whole conversation was done, or so I thought!
This same day, once we pulled up to the school to wait for the doors to open, she lets me know that she has something to say. As always, I brace myself because I know it could go real left or reeeeeeeal right! Do you know what the Ambassador said? “Mommy, I love you just the way you are!” I… bout… MELTED!!! I literally teared up and let her know how she surely made my day! There have been many moments that have made me proud to be her mom, but this one has surely taken the cake!
With me working with many clients through the years that struggle with being happy in their own skin, it is so important to instill in our young ladies and young men that who you are on the inside is what’s most important. I was always taught to be kind and gracious growing up. I love to be thoughtful and show people that I care. With regard to Reese, I teach her the same thing. The beauty on the outside is only a small piece of the puzzle. Now, she has also taught me something! Always be yourself! Be you just the way you are! Our world seems to be a big reality show with Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat being the networks, and everyone is always tuning in watching every series of episodes. It is more important than ever to give our children the proper teachings for them to bloom beyond what people can see on the outside. Just as Reese told me, we need to let our children know they are beautiful just as they are. Tell them they are not just beautiful on the outside. We need to be an example and show them how to be beautiful on the inside. So, what is the most important thing little Miss Reese has taught me? Be you beyond the makeup and what you show on the outside because it is ultimately the inside that really shines!
What are some ways you teach the little ones in your life to be beautiful inside and out?