By Eboni Elise
Do you find yourself going through the motions every day? You look in the mirror and see a woman who looks like she was run over by a mac truck. The disheveled image makes you realize that you’ve forgotten to take care of yourself. I’ve been there…a few times. My mind makes thousands of decisions a day, from figuring out how to keep my team motivated at work, to thinking about what I need to cook for dinner. Some days, I’m mentally and physically depleted, so much that when I get time to focus on me at the end of the day, the only decision my brain wants to make is to go to bed.
I absolutely need to unplug from everything. So when my sister friends wanted to go to California, I was all in. I was ready to pack my bags before we even booked an Airbnb. We found cheap flights via Hopper and were on our way to Palm Spring and Los Angeles.
We deemed this the Relax, Relate, Release girls trip. The phrase comes from an episode of one of my favorite sitcoms, A Different World. The hilarious Debbie Allen plays Whitley’s therapist who gets her to snap into reality as she tries to control her feelings about breaking up with Dwayne Wayne. We applied this same mantra to our trip. The reality is that we each needed a break from the hustle and bustle of life, putting ourselves first.
Because of these ladies, I had such a great time and brought back lessons that I plan to keep in the forefront of my mind throughout 2017.
What’s the first thing that pops into your mind when you think of relaxing? The spa. And that’s exactly where we went! Hot stone massages, manis, pedis, and a few glasses ofchampagne over girl talk - the best recipe for relaxation. It was great to turn off my phone and not have to pay attention to the time. No work, no fussy toddler, no one calling me to do something. I loved every minute.
Palm Springs is not the city to turn up, but the most lit place we could find was Zelda’s nightclub on a Friday night. We literally went straight to the dance floor as soon as we walked in the place. Fun times!
When you instantly clique with women who have common interests or can relate to a situation you are going through, it makes life a bit easier. You can’t travel with everyone but the 4 of us shared a lot of great bonding moments - We sang to 90s hits and had a DJ battle during our drive from LA to Palm Springs and had a heart to heart conversation as we ate brunch at Cheeky’s. We also laughed our hearts out over delicious ice cream at Salt & Straw in Venice Beach and we shopped on Melrose. This trip helped me to be fully present in the moment and just enjoy the experience.
The most important lesson from this girls trip was letting go. There is something about seeing nature and being in awe of what God has created that puts things into perspective. The problems you think are a big deal are so minute in the larger scheme of life. I realized this as we were going 9,000 feet in the mountains in Palm Springs and as we hung out at the beach in Santa Monica. Both 2 different places and 2 different temperatures but both amazingly beautiful spaces to be in and reflect. It helped me realize that I need to release the things I cannot control, to let go of thoughts of self-doubt, to say goodbye to what makes me unhappy, to let go of trying to be superwoman and just be Eboni.
I’m grateful to have experienced this trip with friends! It came at the perfect time. Can’t wait until we do it again next year!