Nikki, Eboni, and Veronica
The Besties were off to the movies! Adding the new title of movie critiques to our hat, three-fifths of Besties and Brunch spent a Sunday Funday as every squad should…together. Watching Will Packer’s latest production, Girls Trip, we had such a profound reaction to the movie that we had to put pen to paper. The movie features four college best friends, acted by Jada Pickett, Regina Hall, Queen Latifah, and breakout star Tiffany Haddish, reuniting for a weekend excursion at the Essence Festival in New Orleans. If you haven’t already seen the film, we are giving you a SPOILER ALERT warning, but honestly it is still something you should see for yourself! So, take a moment to read each of our major take-aways from the movie, and be sure to share your comments below!
“There are people in your life that when you see them they remind you of exactly who you are.”
This isn't an exact quote from the movie but the sentiment that Ryan, played by Regina Hall, shared during her speech when the Flossy Posse came to support her as she was going through a whirlwind of bullshit. Like dude, you cheating and she pregnant? The fugg. Can you tell I’m like 78% Dina and 22% Lisa because my kids have a bedtime, don't feed them that foolishness, and no they cannot spend the night. This movie brought me back to high school when the Besties had a group called the First Ladies with a gang sign to match. First ladies of what you say? Shit, I don’t know but we was lit! Well, as lit as you can be at 16 at an all girl’s school with uniforms and knee high socks. But you couldn't tell us nothing! So the fact that this is what unified them I instantly related to the movie. Adulting is hard. You gotta be professional but still know how to check a MFer. Be a mom but still keep your man interested. And find “me time” which doesn’t really fugging exist. All while still trying to maintain relationships with others. I'm tired from just typing that.... So it is easy to get caught up in what everyone else needs you to be to them. But when I am with my girls I can let go of my filter, use improper English, be that person to lean on, let my wit shine and not care or think twice about them ever judging me. Cause if they wanna judge, bish I got receipts. I kid. But I’m for real, I got receipts. Nothing reminded me more of this when I was sitting in between Eboni and Veronica at the theater. I looked to my left and then to my right, these are my homies and I love them! But they were crying y’all. Like why are we crying? Nobody died. And instead of rubbing their backs, I laughed in their faces as I passed them tissue. That is a true friendship. They knew my laughter was out of love and as women friendships don’t always look the same. It is important to always allow people to be who they are because life happens and the expectations we place on others may not be the ones they feel like living out at that moment. For me, Girls Trip represented the camaraderie we have built and sustained over the years. Despite the evolution our lives have taken, we will always be First Laaaadieeeess.
So yes, I cried. But they were thug tears tho! The unexpected water works trickled in messing up my makeup during the pivotal speech by Regina Hall’s character, Ryan Pierce. It’s what I needed to hear. I resonated with Ryan throughout the movie – she’s the one who wants to have it all, whose goal is to empower other women to work towards this possibility, and the one who is so concerned about keeping her image and brand in tact because she knows others are watching.
Like Ryan I, too, am at a pivotal point in my life where I was reluctant to share, even with those closest to me due to the fear of how I would be perceived. I get so used to being in problem-solving mode at work, not realizing I can’t solve everything on my own in my personal life. Her speech hit a nerve when she mentioned letting go of being perfect. Totally the lesson I’m learning and my besties have been vital in bringing this out of me. The ones I was scared to be vulnerable in front of are the ones who I need the most right now. Every girl needs a Flossy Posse! It’s the best feeling to have ride or die friends that will always have your back.
This movie was the best for black girl magic! It gave tons of comedy, a dose of raunchiness, and whole lot of sisterhood! And did I mention the eye candy (Kofi and Larenz)? Bestie approved!
“You should never be afraid to rediscover your own voice.”
Eboni was not alone. I thought I was crying in private, until Nikki leaned over and said, “would you like some tissue?” (*insert side eye*) I loved this movie from beginning to end, and was incredibly moved by one of it's core messages, find treasures in being alone. Regina Hall’s character Ryan struggle with continuing or ending her tumultuous relationship came to a head in a really powerful way for me. While being with someone can be wonderful and fulfilling, it should never be at the expense of your own power, peace, or your posse! Facing yourself sometimes means standing alone, and is the only way you can continue to grow in love and life. Ryan thought that she needed her husband to be a dynamic star, even at the expense of her own dignity and friendships. However, the movie proved that her star shined just as, if not more, brightly by herself…with her squad at her side, of course! Larenz Tate was a nice bogus too (that man does not age)! I give this movie an A++! I know this next statement may be controversial, but whatever! It was the best all BLACK film that I’ve seen in many years! Tons of surprises (even though the plot was a little predictable), and “my belly hurts” laughter! Can we have a moment of silence to recognize the genius that is Tiffany Haddish!?! While I had seen her a little bit on the Carmichael Show, she stole the stage in this movie with her quick candid wit and adlibs. She said everything you were thinking, and a lot you weren't. She also became an official "Bestie in my Head"! Take your besties with you to see this one. It will not disappoint! There are plenty of post movie topics you all can discuss over wine (of course!), and it is just a genuine good time...with a few tears!
Have your seen Girls Trip? Please share your thoughts on the movie or our reviews in the comments below. I can’t wait to hear from you!