I’m putting me and my Besties to shame with this post right here. Yes, it’s made to make us all feel bad for neglecting our friendship. We have not been the best at making time for us.
Our excuses: have been:
My work schedule is too hectic… I have the kids…My husband might die if I leave him alone, with the kids, for 4 days… or my funds are funny? EXCUSES!
Me and the Besties have not had a girls trip since Eboni was pregnant with Myles and it was incomplete because she was too far along to travel. Yeah, we have been bad about planning a girl’s only getaway.
But that is all about to change. I’m going to take charge of things this year! I’m going to make it happens if it kills me! If they were annoyed with my badgering and meticulous planning before, they are really not going to like me now!
A Mystery Trip! It’s when a group of friends decide on a date and a budget and one member of the group takes charge of all the planning (from flights to lodging to meals), only revealing the destination to the rest of the friends right before they leave. You rotate who plans it every year. But I will put a Tahlee spin to it. Here is how to do this!
1. Plan waaaaay in advance. We are notorious for setting a date and not sticking to it. I hate that. Get the trip on the calendar and carve it in stone so it trumps the million other obligations that will definitely crop up. For the trip to succeed, it has to be sacred.
2. Don’t invite others. For real…no new friends. We all have different sets of friends, I know this. But opening it up to people beyond the Founding Friends changes the group dynamic, complicates scheduling, and encourages more requests. And everyone doesn’t travel well together anyway, it’s a fact.
3.Five days is ideal: Any longer and it makes it hard for friends to commit; any shorter and it’s too short! (Plus it limits how far you can go.) A Wednesday thru Sunday sort of thing. Some can come in on Thursday, depending on the madness level at home. But let’s make it worth the travel.
4.Relax about the budget. Start low with a $400/person budget and work your way up to $1500/person. Something all-inclusive would be ideal. Try to pick a place that most of the girls haven’t been. Domestic or abroad...doesn’t matter.
5.Have fun with the big reveal. The planner could send email riddles about a week before the trip or funny clues (sand, underwear) in the mail and give hints about what to pack. Or a luggage tag with the destination, the day of the trip.
6.Be as organized (or loose) as you want. In planning the trip and tracking the budget, meticulous itemized spreadsheets and itineraries, are nice have; or you can wing it. Let your personality drive how you plan, and don’t feel pressure to be perfect. Remember, all the others really care about is that you’re all together and they didn’t have to lift a finger to get there.
7.…But do plan a few activities. We don’t want to be held to a schedule of things to do, down time is always a must. However, plan a few activities to explore the mystery destination. Horseback riding, zip-lining or a mini photo shoot at the various popular sites.
8.Honor mini traditions. Make these up as you go along. That one thing y’all always do.
Enjoy the Journey