“All those clichés, those things you hear about having a baby and motherhood - all of them are true. And all of them are the most beautiful things you will ever experience.” Penelope Cruz
My life’s journey has been pretty great so far, but it’s a lot different than what I had originally planned. I figured by this time I would be married with two kids. If you have read my previous post, obviously that’s not happening right now. (In fact, Veronica and I made a pact that if by 35 we weren’t married nor had kids we would go get sperm donors together. No need for that now, LOL!) Having “little ones” are still in my plans, just not at this moment. So I decided to take matters into my own hands and swing by Shady Grove Fertility clinic and see “what’s up”, what are my options?
The choice to make this trip was a bit overwhelming but I was inspired by an episode of “Being Mary Jane” and decided to explore egg freezing. By freezing my eggs now, I can extend my fertility potential should I need reproductive assistance in the future, and when the time is right. Now this experience is not cheap so luckily my employer benefits will pay for certain aspects of the process. (Low key, I believe they offer these benefits so I can work forever) Anyway, I set up an appointment and contacted my insurance company to insure the initial tests were covered.
Walking into the facility for the first time was a bit surreal and extremely emotional. I actually had to take a couple deep breaths because I was about to breakdown and lose my SHIT in the waiting room. I couldn’t believe I was actually doing this, but there I went. My first appointment was pretty painless and quick, I had blood work done and an ultrasound of my uterus to get a snapshot of my follicles. The staff made me extremely comfortable; they were so nurturing and delicate. I really needed it because again, I was about to lose my SHIT!
My second appointment was with my physician to review my OAR. The Ovarian Assessment Report (OAR), provides the most accurate available assessment ofa woman’s ovulatory egg supply using a single blood test. The OAR combines age with anti-Müllerian hormone (AMH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) levels. This combination is put into a proprietary algorithm to determine my Egg Retrieval Score (ERS), which helped my physician assess my candidacy for egg freezing.
My physician went over everything, he was so compassionate which I needed. Yet again, I was having an emotional moment; I actually started sobbing in his office (SMH). He probably thought I was nuts. After calming me down, he concluded that I was a good candidate. Although I didn’t go through the entire process, I did get some reassurance that if I wanted to start the actual egg retrieval process in the next couple years, that all was well.
Things to consider:
1. It’s not cheap.
The cost of medication and treatment for one cycle is roughly $10,000-12,000 and storing eggs will cost $800 per year. But freezing your eggs may save thousands of dollars in fertility treatment down the road, and it offers immediate peace of mind.
2. There’s no guarantee.
It’s important to know that freezing eggs does not guarantee a baby, but it offers a reliable insurance plan. Similar to your chances of getting pregnant when trying for 1-2 months, this provides a swing at the bat. When you are ready to use your frozen eggs to have a family, they must complete several steps prior to pregnancy. Eggs must survive the thaw, fertilize, implant and hopefully result in a baby. Along the way, any of these steps may not happen. Until eggs are used for treatment, physicians cannot know the outcome.
3. You will feel lighter and think more clearly.
That 800 lb. gorilla that has been sitting on your shoulders? Gone. That ticking biological clock? You’ve broken it. Women can walk away feeling freer, lighter and rejuvenated. They can head back into the dating world empowered with a new perspective and positive attitude. And believe it or not, sometimes Mr. Right arrives soon thereafter.
For me the process was very positive, reassuring, extremely emotional and empowering. It also allowed me to ease up on the pressure I was putting on myself. So now I can tell my biological clock, “chill the f*ck out”.
Enjoy the Journey,