I was disrespected. Played. Forgiveness? Are you kidding? Hell no! You gets no pardons from me! These were my exact sentiments. I wanted them to feel the same pain they caused. Hurt can take you to places of pettiness especially when the consequences are life altering. Learning to push past your hurt and choose forgiveness is difficult...but powerful.
Recently, binge watching Grey’s Anatomy (teacher summer breakin’…don’t hate), I had a very emotional epiphany (tears and all...thanks a lot, Shonda!) about forgiveness or rather the lack there of. While it is human nature to seek revenge, revenge doesn’t make you feel better. If anything, you feel angrier and more stressed. You become hostage to the pain on a carousel of bitterness and regret.
Forgiveness frees you. It is releasing the desire to teach that person a lesson. It enables you to let go and move on. The past may have hurt you, and hurt is a hard thing to forget. Forgiveness won’t necessarily stop that hurt, but it begins the process. I chose to forgive… not because they deserved it, but because I do. That’s the thing! All this time, I thought forgiveness was about the other person, and it’s not.
Forgiveness is for ME!
So, maybe it’s your ex-bestie, your ex-mate, or maybe it’s the (wo)man in the mirror. Nothing can change the past. The damage has already been done, but the future is up to you. And as for revenge... let the universe take of that.
What are your thoughts on forgiveness? I would love to hear!
Love WITHOUT Fear,