I can be horrible to myself! I mean, down right awful to myself. I compare my body, my hair, my talents, and more to that of others. I justify, or even rebuke, compliments. I constantly question my inner and outer beauty, regardless of how many times I hear the contrary from those around me. I can be my worst enemy.
What’s more interesting, I am the complete opposite when it comes to others. In the people around me, I can find all that is positive and good. The besties would say that I find the “sunny side up” of things. I notice the smallest of actions that make each individual special, unique, and treasured. So, why can’t I do this for myself?
We live in a culture of “keeping up with the Joneses”. We naturally feel pressure to have other people’s beauty, talents, income, or homes. We are never thin enough, thick enough, hair isn’t full enough. Why aren’t you married by now? Why don’t you have kids? Why aren’t you making this much yet? Why don’t you have this home or this car? And on and on and on…constant questioning and comparing create doubt that stop us from accepting our wonderful selves.
Screw the Joneses! They are likely trying to keep up with the Smiths or the Browns anyway! I am enough!
I am not like anyone else...and that is my power! I am flawed. I make mistakes. I did NOT wake up like this! And all of this is better than where I was 5 years ago…or even 5 days ago, for that matter. The focus is progression, not perfection. Striving for my goals, taking tiny steps each day is success.
Find peace in the “now”. Where I am, exactly the way I am, is enough. Moving forward, trying to become a better me, is great and necessary, but acceptance of all that I currently am makes the ride far more satisfying. I am where I am, the way I am, for a reason and season. Embracing the hills and valleys makes the journey more bearable.
You will never hate yourself into a person you love. I’ve realized that loving myself a little bit more everyday is how I learn to love myself completely. Telling myself I’ve failed won’t help me succeed. Putting myself down won’t help me move up. Declare the things that you are or want to become. I am beautiful. I am a genius. I will win. Speaking light, creates light. You are worthy of light.
I am enough. You, my friend, are enough. Whisper that to yourself the next time self-loathing starts to rear its ugly head.
What other ways do you fight self-hate?
Love Without Fear,