By Eboni Elise
There are three things kids may experience when heading off to school for the very first time. As for me, I’m experiencing them too. My baby is off to preschool and I’m a hot mess.
After searching for a quality school to enroll my son, I was excited and ready for this day. The preparation was fun! Back to school shopping and visions of chaperoning on field trips had me in a good mood until the morning my husband and I pulled up to the school. We got out of the car and my son had the look of terror on his face. That’s the moment I began to think,
“I don’t even know these people I’m leaving my child with!”
“They won’t even let me sit in the classroom to see how he’ll adjust.”
“The teacher doesn’t even know what to do to calm him down if he gets scared.”
I tried to push those thoughts to the side because I didn’t want my son to pick up on the nervous energy and realize I felt like the look he had on his face.
Thankfully, my bestie Veronica was there to see him off to school as well. Seeing her excitement and positivity definitely helped ease his mind. She’s truly sunny side up! Since Ryan had experienced this before, she knew exactly what to say to make me feel better. And the thoughtful messages from Tahlee and Nikki reminded me that I was blessed to have a support system not just for my son, but for me as well. Or maybe they knew I would be a total sap on this day.
Either way, I got through it with no tears! I occupied myself for the rest of the day and probably was the first parent in line at dismissal time. The first thing my son did was give me a big hug and said “Mommy, I want to go home.” I replied, "Let's go!"
Got the first day of school under my belt. Easy peezy, right?
Wrong. The second day was horrible. Let’s just say I had to drag him in the classroom and I cried before I stepped foot back in the car.
Here’s what I learned from sending my baby off to school:
- It gets better. By the second week of school, he still had a nervous look on his face but he walked right into the classroom with no fuss.
- Let go! The hardest thing was for me to see him look me in the eye and say “Don’t leave me!” I had to remember that there comes a point when you have to let them grow up and part of that is allowing them to do and learn things without you being there at every moment. I tell him mommy and daddy drops you off at school but we will always come back.
- The Mommy Blues. Know that it’s completely natural and will probably never go away when your child has to encounter a new experience of being independent. I don’t even want to think about when my son goes off to college. But, I’ll try to prepare myself when the time arrives. I’m sure my besties will be there to talk me off the ledge. Lol!
Have you had this experience before? What helped ease your mommy blues when you sent your child off to school? Share in the comment section below!