By Eboni Elise
Overwhelmed with juggling too much in your life? Are you all work, all family and no time for you? Achieving balance in your life isn’t very easy but it is very possible. Before you figure out what you need to do to achieve balance instead of feeling like the tight rope walker on the edge of slipping off, you first have to identify what you’re doing wrong.
I’ve been captain of the “I need to get my life together” crew and already have a good idea of what you’re already doing that’s not allowing you to live a well-balanced life. Any of these sound familiar?
1. You don’t ask for help. Superwoman ain’t superwoman without some type of assistance. Think of any great woman who has her shit together and I guarantee she’s not doing it all on her own. Behind every successful woman is a team who supports her. Learn to ask for help and don’t be ashamed. Even if it’s asking a friend to watch your child for an hour so you can workout at the gym or do something you’ve been procrastinating to get done. Just don’t forget to return the favor.
2. You have a bad case of FOMO. I’m totally guilty of this! FOMO is the fear of missing out. There are times when I look at my calendar and find that I double booked myself. I just have to get to all 3-4 events in one day because I don’t want to miss out on great moments, people who I haven’t seen in a while or any juicy gossip. And don’t let me scroll through my social media timelines and see people posting about what’s going on at an event that I couldn’t attend. I instantly feel like I’m missing out by not being there. Have you done this too, knowing that you’re already spreading yourself too thin? STOP IT! What you’re actually missing out on is a chance to rejuvenate and focus on what’s most important.
3. You Have Too Many Priorities. I think if you want to have it all, you can…just not all at the same time. Everything cannot be a priority. One of the down sides to balancing home, work, and a social life is that something always gets sacrificed. That’s just the way it goes. Take 1 thing at a time. If your priority is to save money for a family vacation, then make sure you intentionally do something every day to work toward that goal until it’s achieved. Other things, especially the ones we do to really please other people instead of ourselves, can fall to the side. Which leads me to my next point.
4. You’re Not Being Selfish. You have to put yourself first. And I’m sure you’ve heard this before. Well, I’m going to say it again until you put it into practice. Make time for you so you can be your best for your family, friends, job, etc. If momma ain’t alright then no one is! It’s just like when you’re on an airplane. In an emergency that causes the oxygen masks to fall, you’re directed to put it on you first before helping a child or another passenger. Same thing applies when having a well-balanced life.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
What else do you think is needed to live a well-balanced life? Share what works for you in the comments!