So you know God don't like ugly, right? For the sake of this argument this is all karma and the universe continuing to fux with me. Edges…. Where art thou? Why have you forsaken me? Did I not love and nurture you enough? Did I neglect to massage my scalp to promote growth? Did I wear wool hats that snatched you away? WHAT. DID. I. DO? Actually, I know exactly what I did. I had two beautiful babies 18 months apart. I experienced shedding when my son was around 3 months so when my daughter reached that age I was prepared. But guess what? Nothing happened. My hair seemed to bypass that phase and I was cool with that. As you know, edges are a hot topic. I’ve laughed at many a post, meme, gif, etc. related to someone’s lack of edges. So… When Elle was approaching 7 months, one day I noticed a baby fro across the entire perimeter of my hairline. The fro seemed to populate my scalp overnight and was just there looking outta place. I instantly knew what was going on. I did not skip the postpartum shedding phase instead I missed it. I was so damn tired (2 babies under 2) I did not consistently monitor my hair for changes. Instead, I looked in the mirror one day and the edges were there so I convinced myself I had dodged the shedding bullet this time around. NOPE. Now my hairline was pushed way the fux back.
And you know what? Not one single muthasucka said anything about my shady ass edges. NO.BOD.DEE. I thought people cared about me enough to tell me “Hey bruh, your shits is thin on the side.” My hairline already suffers from a lack of understanding as to where the property line starts (big head, thanks pops) so to have it back even further is down right disrespectful. In this pic it is soooooo obvious that I missing hella strands from the ear forward.
I just have a few questions for my friends… Why didn’t you say anything? Did my big head confuse you into believing my hairline was already like that? Did you not think that my edges look underdeveloped? Are we really friends? Were you sabotaging me? Or did my beauty blind you and you didn't notice? If that is the case, we are cool again. But how can I call my friendships into question when I didn't even notice it? So they are lucky…
I still can't help but look at my edges and wonder, where they at tho? Bruh, look at this… What I am supposed to do with budding new growth??? Don't get me wrong, I am glad it is returning. But I will have limited hairstyles for at least another six months - at least.
There are two ways I know how to handle this; with humor and take a proactive approach into getting those damn strands back. Once I was done clowning myself I went into “Ain't Too Proud to Beg” mode and started telling my hair how much I appreciated her so she would come back. I also thought about the things I did when I experienced shedding with my son and started to take action. Here are the 5 things I did (and currently do) to encourage my peach fuzz's growth:
Wore protective styles that did not require a lot of tension on my hairline. Tension can cause breakage so I avoid style that will tug at my hairline. I wear my hair in a twist-out about 95% off the time.
Deep conditioned weekly and paid special attention to my edges when it came to moisturizing. I absolutely LOVE Wild Growth Hair Oil it helped rejuvenate my strands after my son. I found it at my local beauty supply store but click here to review and purchase online.
Ensure I was properly hydrated, clean diet, and worked out. Exercising increases blood circulation which i believe helps in promoting hair growth.
Continued to take my prenatal vitamins. This is encouraged in nursing moms anyway so I went with my doctor’s recommendation.
Found some patience and sat down somewhere. I wanted my strands back right now but that not how this works. That’s not how any of this works. I became patient with the process and understood my edges will be back to their glory in due time.
There is about a 3 month different between the pics and I was actively focused on regrowth for 2 months when I snapped the later picture. Not bad for 2 months of growth but this will be a process.
Have you ever experience shedding? If so, what did you do to promote growth? Please share your secrets!